Having The Nerve To Make Change

I've been having a bit of bloggers-block lately (is that a thing?). The last few weeks have been a quite busy for me, but not busy with things I could really blog about. However, one thing came to my attention recently that I thought might make an interesting topic.

I recently managed to secure myself a new job, which I'm super excited about! When I left my old retail job, I had a couple of people tell me they wanted to leave as well, but they were scared of the change. As you may have guessed from the title of this post, I'm going to talk to you about having the nerve to make change in your life.

When these people approached me about this topic I can definitely say I understood. Going from a job where you know everyone and can do the role well to a job where you know no one and maybe aren't yet fully trained can be daunting. I'm sure many people experience this fear all the time, change is a massive thing for some people, for others, not so much.

One of the first thing's you need to do when attempting to make a change is to focus on the positives. For example, if you want to leave a low contract job with little overtime and bad working hours for a job that has the opportunity for lots of overtime and better working hours then why not go for it? Yes, you might not know everyone there and it might take a bit of time to get into the swing of things but it's going to give you better quality of life. And in reality, you don't have anything to lose but lots to gain.

You need to understand that everyone feels this fear of change. No one likes being the new person in a job or feeling insecure about a new haircut, but if you think it's the right decision for you, then do it. Everyone has their own opinions, that's just life, some may be negative towards you, but I'm sure 9 times out of 10 they'll be positive. I know this is difficult to always understand and believe, but just make sure you know that everyone else has felt this way at some point in their life.

I recently started reading a book by Susan Jeffers called 'Feel the Fear and do it Anyway'. It's a really great book if you often find yourself feeling anxious or fearful of situations, I'm only on chapter 3 and it's helped me already. In this book she states that you won't necessarily combat the fear, but you'll learn how to control it and turn it into a positive. If you're interested in reading it, you can buy it from Amazon here.

To conclude, I think having the nerve to change is something only you can do. You can't get other people to convince you to take the leap, you have to believe it and do it for yourself. It's about your state of mind. If everyone else can change their job, hairstyle, home, relationship etc, then so can you!

I hope this was helpful to some people.

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Becky
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Ever Feel Like You Need A Pick-Me-Up?

I think everyone goes through those times, whether it be a day, week, month or even year, when you just don't feel like yourself. Everything seems to be getting on top of you and you want something to go your way, just. this. once. but it never seems to come. You need a serious pick-me-up, but you wait for one to come and, again, it never seems to.

I go through these patches sometimes, and almost always I suddenly realise, no one's going to make me feel better but me. I need to give myself a boost, no one can do that for me. Here's a few things you can try to get you back to feeling yourself.

1. Look for something good in every day. 

If you're having a bad week, try focus on the good, it could be anything. I believe there is something good in every day, you just sometimes have to force yourself to see it.

2. Clear your head. 

Go for a walk or a drive. I find that taking a trip out to the countryside in the car is a great way to clear my head, it's always so peaceful and people seem their happiest out there. If you're not comfortable going out on your own, stick your headphones in, you'll soon lose yourself.

3. Do something that makes you happy. 

Forget everyone else, do something for you. Bake, read a book, draw, do a sport, anything that gives you a buzz. Maybe even try something new.

4. Buy something. 

This may sound silly but, buy yourself a little present. Maybe some flowers, or that make up you've been wanting to try. Something inexpensive that you know you'll love. Food works well too!

5. Assess the real problem. 

Just take a minute and think about how you're feeling and if there are any triggers. Once you start thinking about it more in-depth, it's likely that you'll realise it's something that's not much of a big deal at all. 

6. Finally, let go. 

Let go of all that tension, those ideals, that 'perfect situation' and stop worrying. Tell yourself you're willing to let go because you deserve to be happy.

Remember, you're not alone, a lot of people often need to take time out and have a pick-me-up moment. Just breathe and relax.

Do you have any pick-me-up methods? Let me know in the comments.

Becky
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